Especially with first babies, women can have a tendency to make their baby the centre of their universe. This often leaves little time to focus on, or be with their partner. This drought in every day intimacy and attention flows on to a coital hiatus. Nature, it seems, planned on this to ensure that babies are well looked after and future pregnancies are spaced out. The ‘drought’ can come from either partner and the disinterest in sex and intimacy, stems from a number of issues and conditions, which sadly is not discussed by even the closest of friends, much less the medical fraternity or the media. Read the rest of the article
Just when IS the right time to .. you know…. get back into it?
There seems to be some magical occurrence after the six week mark and so many couples are dreadfully disappointed when that ‘something’ doesn’t happen. The physical facts are that within six weeks of birthing, your uterus should be back to its pre-pregnancy weight and size. Breastfeeding assists in stimulating the hormones released around this function. This is the reason that you are meant to have a six week check up and then are medically are ‘fit’ to commence intimate relations. Ignored and unaddressed are the emotional and psychological changes that have occurred.
Throughout the literature available both in hard copy and on the internet, this notion of the mythical 6 week check continues as some sort of goal post. What are your experiences of this check? Did it happen? What happened in it? If it didn’t happen, why not?
