Every week we’re asked questions from women (and men) about intimacy and sex after giving birth and now we’re going to start answering them here. Hundreds of women and a few brave men have shared their experiences with us and we’ve heard it all.
Yes, even what women never talk about with their doctor.
Finally there’s a place you can ask those personal & embarrassing questions.
We’ve heard it all (and probably asked it ourselves too!). You’re safe here, you can even be anonymous.
We are here to help & support you, so ask away, what do you really want to know?
Here’s the first embarrassing question:
“After having a baby does sex still feel the same for the guy or not?”
In a nutshell – everyone is different; their emotional, psychological and physical needs all heal and grow at differing rates – especially after such an incredible emotional rollercoaster such as birthing ( This is for men and women).
Partners in the relationship dictate the boundaries and expectations of your sex life – you don’t need to blame it on a baby (or a changed job or house move etc etc) and yes – the exhaustion – both physically, mentally and emotionally may cause some tension on your usual good nature/ playfulness and libido.
If you are talking about PHYSICALLY does your sex life change i.e what about all the ‘bits’ size, tightness etc – yes it does change – but it can be for the better – especially if the lady in question sources some good pelvic floor muscle exercises (Kegel exercises) and may I recommend Ben Wa Balls – for women - ( search for them online – a few places sell them – just make sure you get surgical standard ones). One or both can be inserted to help strengthen pelvic floor muscles. When used regularly, Ben Wa Balls will restore elasticity and provide more pleasurable sensations during sex. Big smiles. EMOTIONALLY and PSYCHOLOGICALLY things shift a lot and it is a journey in reclaiming your sexuality – for both men and women.
Reclaiming your sexuality can be a wonderful adventure – so don’t treat it as a chore or something that you just gotta do – enjoy the journey!
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